It has been a challenging few weeks. Sorry that I have not blogged in some time. Here is the update:
I have begun giving webinars on working with children with anxiety as well as one on working with adults. These are offered through Cross Country Education.
I will also be back on the road beginning in August with my full day seminar on Play Therapy. First stop is NJ and Nanuet, NY. This fall I will be off to Boston, Ohio, Missouri, Arkansas, Virginia, Tennessee, Los Angeles, Seattle and perhaps a few other destinations. These are available through PESI.
I am teaching a significant course load as Grand Canyon University, all on the masters' level.
I will be developing a new seminar on eating disorders that will also be available through Cross Country Education.
So it has been a busy few weeks.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Friday, June 28, 2013
Thursday, April 4, 2013
A dilemna as a therapist – when clients evoke negative feelings.
This is the most honest blog that I have written yet. The truth is most of the people I see are great. They are working to better themselves. Sometimes clients are frustrating but often this is due to the issues that have brought them in for counseling. Remembering that and maintaining empathy helps to work through that frustration. This enables us to remain compassionate and empathetic towards the client.
Then there are the rare times when you just may not like the client with whom you are working. I find that often this is due also to their issues. However, we are talking about a certain type of issue: Personality Disorders. The following is from http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/personality-disorders:
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/personality-disorders
People with these types of issues rarely recognize or are aware that this is truly the problem. They often come in for counseling because of relationship issues, trouble holding down a job or other things in their life that are causing them to feel anxious, depressed, stressed etc.
When I have found myself working with someone whom I do not like, it is not because of their personality disorder directly. I should rephrase that – the things that occur could be attributable. However, it is the little things and the inability to talk with them that drives me crazy. I will admit that I think this has happened two may be three times in the almsot 20 years that I have been practicing. What causes me to feel resentment and not like working with these people are the little things such as arguing with everything I say, not respecting the boundaries I set such as the time we need to end the session or taking something of mine without even asking.
It sounds petty but this is sometimes the reality of being a therapist. We do not always like the people with whom we work.
So how do we deal with this? Carefully. First, I engage in consultation with a colleague to make sure that my negative feelings are in check and do not impare my ability to work with this person. If they do than I need to refer this client to someone else. I also vent and make sure to express how I feel and why. I need to get my feelings out. Lastly, I talk about things constructively with the client. These issues are in part, why they are having the troubles that they are having in their life. I owe it to them to point these things out, such as the argumentativeness, in order to help them. I also need to make sure to look at my feeling: is something else being triggered.
For me, usually is it just that the personality of the person rubs me the wrong way. However, I need to make sure that this is correct. I also make sure to take care of myself and unwind at the end of such a day. I stick with my boundaries and not allow the client to cross them. I also make sure that we maintain respect for each other. My goal is still them same: to help this person. This dynamic adds another challenge. However, that does not mean that I should not work with them. On the contrary, if this is how they act with me and this is how they make me feel, I can begin to understand the dynamics of their other relationships including how they treat other people and how they make others feel. With this information, I have a gem to work with in hopes of helping this person. It is not easy, but that is what I do.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Then there are the rare times when you just may not like the client with whom you are working. I find that often this is due also to their issues. However, we are talking about a certain type of issue: Personality Disorders. The following is from http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/personality-disorders:
Personality Disorders
What is “Personality?”
Personality refers to a distinctive set of traits, behavior styles, and patterns that make up our character or individuality. How we perceive the world, our attitudes, thoughts, and feelings are all part of our personality. People with healthy personalities are able to cope with normal stresses and have no trouble forming relationships with family, friends, and co-workers.What is a Personality Disorder?
Those who struggle with a personality disorder have great difficulty dealing with other people. They tend to be inflexible, rigid, and unable to respond to the changes and demands of life. Although they feel that their behavior patterns are “normal” or “right,” people with personality disorders tend to have a narrow view of the world and find it difficult to participate in social activities.Recognizing a Personality Disorder
A personality disorder must fulfill several criteria. A deeply ingrained, inflexible pattern of relating, perceiving, and thinking serious enough to cause distress or impaired functioning is a personality disorder. Personality disorders are usually recognizable by adolescence or earlier, continue throughout adulthood, and become less obvious throughout middle age.What Causes a Personality Disorder?
Some experts believe that events occurring in early childhood exert a powerful influence upon behavior later in life. Others indicate that people are genetically predisposed to personality disorders. In some cases, however, environmental facts may cause a person who is already genetically vulnerable to develop a personality disorder.Types of Personality Disorders
There are many formally identified personality disorders, each with their own set of behaviors and symptoms. Many of these fall into three different categories or clusters:- Cluster A: Odd or eccentric behavior
- Cluster B: Dramatic, emotional or erratic behavior
- Cluster C: Anxious fearful behavior
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/personality-disorders
People with these types of issues rarely recognize or are aware that this is truly the problem. They often come in for counseling because of relationship issues, trouble holding down a job or other things in their life that are causing them to feel anxious, depressed, stressed etc.
When I have found myself working with someone whom I do not like, it is not because of their personality disorder directly. I should rephrase that – the things that occur could be attributable. However, it is the little things and the inability to talk with them that drives me crazy. I will admit that I think this has happened two may be three times in the almsot 20 years that I have been practicing. What causes me to feel resentment and not like working with these people are the little things such as arguing with everything I say, not respecting the boundaries I set such as the time we need to end the session or taking something of mine without even asking.
It sounds petty but this is sometimes the reality of being a therapist. We do not always like the people with whom we work.
So how do we deal with this? Carefully. First, I engage in consultation with a colleague to make sure that my negative feelings are in check and do not impare my ability to work with this person. If they do than I need to refer this client to someone else. I also vent and make sure to express how I feel and why. I need to get my feelings out. Lastly, I talk about things constructively with the client. These issues are in part, why they are having the troubles that they are having in their life. I owe it to them to point these things out, such as the argumentativeness, in order to help them. I also need to make sure to look at my feeling: is something else being triggered.
For me, usually is it just that the personality of the person rubs me the wrong way. However, I need to make sure that this is correct. I also make sure to take care of myself and unwind at the end of such a day. I stick with my boundaries and not allow the client to cross them. I also make sure that we maintain respect for each other. My goal is still them same: to help this person. This dynamic adds another challenge. However, that does not mean that I should not work with them. On the contrary, if this is how they act with me and this is how they make me feel, I can begin to understand the dynamics of their other relationships including how they treat other people and how they make others feel. With this information, I have a gem to work with in hopes of helping this person. It is not easy, but that is what I do.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Issues - carryon sized or cargo?
We all have issues. None of us is perfect. I firmly believe that we can grow as a person until the day we die. Our learning and self improvement is an endless process.
People comment to me frequently that they do not see how I can deal with listening to people with problems every day, all day. I usually reply that it is the people walking around denying that there is anything wrong with them who make me nervous. For someone to truly think that there is nothing about themselve which they can improve is very disconcerting. Technically the person is either in major denial or a narcissist. We all can work on something that will better us as a person.
A challenge I face though is people who come in for counseling because they acknowledge that something is wrong but they really have no idea the depth of their pathology. Some of us work on our issues and reduce them. The goal should be that are issues are carry on sized. We are aware of them, we work to keep them in check and still try to reduce them as we grow and better ourselves as a human being. However, I often see people who have issues that are very deep and serious. There issues are cargo sized. However, they do not recognize this.
Working with such people is very hard. If you confront them too much, this can be upsetting to say the least and potentially very psychologically damaging. You also do not want to do something that results in them dropping out of counseling and potentially never returning to work with anyone because they had such a negative experience with you.
So you treat carefully. However, they may blame others when indeed it is their issues that are causing so much of their troubles. Of the greatest significant is to be compassionate. You never know what it is like to be someone else and you never will because you will not walk in their shoes. It is important to try and empathize to the best of your ability. It is also vital to remember that we may not be facing all of our issues. Some things are too hard to face because they hurt, scare us, intimidate us, threaten us etc. We are who we are. We all have issues. NO ONE IS PERFECT. Try not to judge and try to be kind. Life is hard for all of us.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
People comment to me frequently that they do not see how I can deal with listening to people with problems every day, all day. I usually reply that it is the people walking around denying that there is anything wrong with them who make me nervous. For someone to truly think that there is nothing about themselve which they can improve is very disconcerting. Technically the person is either in major denial or a narcissist. We all can work on something that will better us as a person.
A challenge I face though is people who come in for counseling because they acknowledge that something is wrong but they really have no idea the depth of their pathology. Some of us work on our issues and reduce them. The goal should be that are issues are carry on sized. We are aware of them, we work to keep them in check and still try to reduce them as we grow and better ourselves as a human being. However, I often see people who have issues that are very deep and serious. There issues are cargo sized. However, they do not recognize this.
Working with such people is very hard. If you confront them too much, this can be upsetting to say the least and potentially very psychologically damaging. You also do not want to do something that results in them dropping out of counseling and potentially never returning to work with anyone because they had such a negative experience with you.
So you treat carefully. However, they may blame others when indeed it is their issues that are causing so much of their troubles. Of the greatest significant is to be compassionate. You never know what it is like to be someone else and you never will because you will not walk in their shoes. It is important to try and empathize to the best of your ability. It is also vital to remember that we may not be facing all of our issues. Some things are too hard to face because they hurt, scare us, intimidate us, threaten us etc. We are who we are. We all have issues. NO ONE IS PERFECT. Try not to judge and try to be kind. Life is hard for all of us.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
It is offical. I will be coming to Boston this September to give my Play Therapy seminar. This will occur the third week of September. The week after I will be in Missouri. Please go to www.PESI.com for more information!
Thank you,
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Thank you,
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
When is enough enough?
In our society we base so much on rewards and punishments. We put things in place to reward people if they work hard and do well. If we work hard, often if we are not rewarded, this is a let down. Rewards are often expected.
On the flip side, we try to deter negative behavior with consequences from fines to tickets to jail time. We do this with children from time outs to lost allowance and grounding.
We learn from a very early age the power of consequences. Often these can be intangible such as the hurt feelings, loss of trust or damage to a relationship. But when it comes to tanglible consequences, when is enough enough?
Poeple are human. We make mistakes. Of course we want people to learn from those mistakes and grow as a person. Now this is not a process that can be forced. However, many people willingly learn and grow. They want to improve and be better. But often the consequences and punishments that are put in place are more punitive and destructive than they are purposeful and productive. Should that not be the point of consequences but to serve a purpose and foster that growth and learning? When the consequences are demeaning, over kill or destructive, what is being accomplished?
I truly feel that this is a significant point whether we are talking about children, co-workers or any one in society who breaks a law. First, who am I to judge? I am not in your shoes and as easy as it might be to say "well I would never....", I really can not know until I am in that person's shoes.
Second, whatever the consequences, they need to be productive and help the growth process. If not then the damage can be endless from loss of self-worth and drive to suicide. We need to remember what we are trying to accomplish.
Third, we should never change the rules of the game. If someone is working to meet the punishment and consequences that have been put before them, it is not fair to raise the bar and change the hoops that have to be jumped threw mid-way. This creates such a defeating cycle.
Lastly, work with the person and not against. When time is served, let time be served. There is a point when enough is enough. There is a point when the person has done all that has been asked. Do not take advantage of your position and power. People are not dogs that should be made to do tricks. When people forget that we are human and stop having compassion all that is left is anger, resentment and much negativity. NOTHING IS ACCOMPLISHED.
For all people involved, keep your eyes on the goal. Keep your compassion. Try to remember to always be human. Karma is out there and heaven help you the day the shoe may be on the other foot....yours.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
On the flip side, we try to deter negative behavior with consequences from fines to tickets to jail time. We do this with children from time outs to lost allowance and grounding.
We learn from a very early age the power of consequences. Often these can be intangible such as the hurt feelings, loss of trust or damage to a relationship. But when it comes to tanglible consequences, when is enough enough?
Poeple are human. We make mistakes. Of course we want people to learn from those mistakes and grow as a person. Now this is not a process that can be forced. However, many people willingly learn and grow. They want to improve and be better. But often the consequences and punishments that are put in place are more punitive and destructive than they are purposeful and productive. Should that not be the point of consequences but to serve a purpose and foster that growth and learning? When the consequences are demeaning, over kill or destructive, what is being accomplished?
I truly feel that this is a significant point whether we are talking about children, co-workers or any one in society who breaks a law. First, who am I to judge? I am not in your shoes and as easy as it might be to say "well I would never....", I really can not know until I am in that person's shoes.
Second, whatever the consequences, they need to be productive and help the growth process. If not then the damage can be endless from loss of self-worth and drive to suicide. We need to remember what we are trying to accomplish.
Third, we should never change the rules of the game. If someone is working to meet the punishment and consequences that have been put before them, it is not fair to raise the bar and change the hoops that have to be jumped threw mid-way. This creates such a defeating cycle.
Lastly, work with the person and not against. When time is served, let time be served. There is a point when enough is enough. There is a point when the person has done all that has been asked. Do not take advantage of your position and power. People are not dogs that should be made to do tricks. When people forget that we are human and stop having compassion all that is left is anger, resentment and much negativity. NOTHING IS ACCOMPLISHED.
For all people involved, keep your eyes on the goal. Keep your compassion. Try to remember to always be human. Karma is out there and heaven help you the day the shoe may be on the other foot....yours.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Sunday, February 24, 2013
Limits to what we can and can not do
One thing I have learned as a therapist is that we are unlike any other medical and service professionals. When things go wrong for the people with whom we work, there is not 9-5 Monday through Friday. Calls come at any time. Requests of all sorts can come through. People are scared, desperate, you name it. If they trust us and we have a good relationship with our clients, they may seek from us things that we just can not do.
The other day I received a phone call that was not uncommon. A mom called saying that the situation with her daughter (a legal adult) had continue to deteriorate. She could not take it anymore and wanted my assistance getting her out of the house. I have received many of these types of phone calls. The hard part is that there is nothing we can do. Once the children are legal adults,there are severe limits to how we can help. Of course, as a therapist, we want to support and do what we can to resolve the issues. However, from my position, that involves keeping the family in tact, addressing the causes of the conflict and working to help the family function better.
However, there are times when people give up whether it be on a child, a spouse or someone else in their life. This is hard to acknowledge but it is reality. I am not one to judge. People go through hell and sometimes reach a point where they need the hell to end. In that state, clients often look to us to perform acts or help with the things that we simply cannot.
I feel that at these moments we must maintain our support. However, we must also be honest. We are not miracle workers. We also are not police, lawyers, foster parents etc. We are therapists and must act within the limits of that role. This is not easy but we need to tell our clients that. It is ok for them to seek help from us in a form that we can not give. They need to know that we want to but sometimes cannot do that which they are seeking. However, we are there for them, we listen and offer what help we can. That is what matters.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
The other day I received a phone call that was not uncommon. A mom called saying that the situation with her daughter (a legal adult) had continue to deteriorate. She could not take it anymore and wanted my assistance getting her out of the house. I have received many of these types of phone calls. The hard part is that there is nothing we can do. Once the children are legal adults,there are severe limits to how we can help. Of course, as a therapist, we want to support and do what we can to resolve the issues. However, from my position, that involves keeping the family in tact, addressing the causes of the conflict and working to help the family function better.
However, there are times when people give up whether it be on a child, a spouse or someone else in their life. This is hard to acknowledge but it is reality. I am not one to judge. People go through hell and sometimes reach a point where they need the hell to end. In that state, clients often look to us to perform acts or help with the things that we simply cannot.
I feel that at these moments we must maintain our support. However, we must also be honest. We are not miracle workers. We also are not police, lawyers, foster parents etc. We are therapists and must act within the limits of that role. This is not easy but we need to tell our clients that. It is ok for them to seek help from us in a form that we can not give. They need to know that we want to but sometimes cannot do that which they are seeking. However, we are there for them, we listen and offer what help we can. That is what matters.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Saturday, February 23, 2013
New York here I come!
The first week of March (6-8), I will be in White Plains, Plainview and NYC, NY giving my Play Therapy Seminar. Really looking forward to it. If you are interested in registering go to:
http://www.pesi.com/search/seminarresults.asp
http://www.pesi.com/search/seminarresults.asp
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Yes, clients teach us too!
Too tired to blog tonight. This week at work has been very eye opening. Often the people who I see help me gain a better perspective on my life and they never even know it. Very tired so going to hit the pillow early. Much to think about. Yes, you think about clients in the quiet time. I will expand on this idea soon.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Preventative Work
I recently had a couple call to schedule an appointment with me. When I asked them what there were concerned about, they told me that they had recently gotten engaged and wanted to come to see someone to assist with communication. They went on to say that they hope to address problems before they occur. They thought it would be great to work with someone in order to address things now, before the become or cause a problem.
When I met this couple, what amazed me is that they are really a great couple. They seem to genuinely love each other, have solid reasons for getting married and have already handled stressors very well. However, no relationship is perfect just as no person is perfect. So we work on the things that often cause problems in relationships such as communication and handling stress, being on the same page, being able to compromise and support for one another.
How many people really think of doing this? Life is hard. We are all challenged. We all face stress. None of us is perfect and we all have issues from our past. However, most people wait until things get critical or there is some threats in their life such as the loss of a partner/spouse. If you think about it, no one is perfect. So now put to imperfect people in a relationship. They come from different upbringings, and yet these two different paths have now merged. Why do people think this is easy?
Relationships are HARD!!! I think often people get divorced because they do not know how hard it is going to be and assume that the relationship is not a good one if it is so challenging. That is not the case. The point should be to do the work. Persevere. If you do, it is worth it. The harder something is, the more fulfilling and rewarding on the other side. If people stop waiting for Cinderella and Prince Charming and start to realize that in order for a relationship to work they are going to need to roll up sleeves, get down and dirty and work harder then you ever imagined.
Why go through such things alone? Often the benefit of a third party makes all the difference. I do not doubt that I have saved a few marriages so far in my career. Assistance is not a weakness. Being stubborn and suffering unnecessarily though does not make sense.
No matter what the issue, we can all work on bettering ourselves. It is good to be preventative in any way we can. Don't start to eat healthy because you want to lose weight but eat healthy because you will feel better, take better care of yourself and probably not gain weight. Working with a therapist/life coach is the same - why wait until things fall apart. Be proactive and preventative.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
When I met this couple, what amazed me is that they are really a great couple. They seem to genuinely love each other, have solid reasons for getting married and have already handled stressors very well. However, no relationship is perfect just as no person is perfect. So we work on the things that often cause problems in relationships such as communication and handling stress, being on the same page, being able to compromise and support for one another.
How many people really think of doing this? Life is hard. We are all challenged. We all face stress. None of us is perfect and we all have issues from our past. However, most people wait until things get critical or there is some threats in their life such as the loss of a partner/spouse. If you think about it, no one is perfect. So now put to imperfect people in a relationship. They come from different upbringings, and yet these two different paths have now merged. Why do people think this is easy?
Relationships are HARD!!! I think often people get divorced because they do not know how hard it is going to be and assume that the relationship is not a good one if it is so challenging. That is not the case. The point should be to do the work. Persevere. If you do, it is worth it. The harder something is, the more fulfilling and rewarding on the other side. If people stop waiting for Cinderella and Prince Charming and start to realize that in order for a relationship to work they are going to need to roll up sleeves, get down and dirty and work harder then you ever imagined.
Why go through such things alone? Often the benefit of a third party makes all the difference. I do not doubt that I have saved a few marriages so far in my career. Assistance is not a weakness. Being stubborn and suffering unnecessarily though does not make sense.
No matter what the issue, we can all work on bettering ourselves. It is good to be preventative in any way we can. Don't start to eat healthy because you want to lose weight but eat healthy because you will feel better, take better care of yourself and probably not gain weight. Working with a therapist/life coach is the same - why wait until things fall apart. Be proactive and preventative.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Relationships require commitment
If you think about it, therapy requires a commitment. Any kind of goal requires a commitment whether it is to go to school to lose weight, to get a new job etc.
When we think about commitment we often think about relationships. In relationships, commitment involves a number of things including making the person a priority, being honest with the person, knowing we can trust them etc. There are many facets to commitment.
When a person enters into counseling or life coaching, they are starting a new relationship with the therapist/life coach. However, the commitment is not to that person. What are you doing is not for the therapist/life coach, it is for yourself. So the commitment that you are making is TO YOU!! And to no one else.
If you enter into counseling or life coaching know that it will work, if you commit to yourself that you will do it and follow through. This means facing yourself and the things about you that you do not want to face. This means doing the homework. This means trying even when you do not want to. This means do what the therapist suggests even if you think we are out of our minds in regards to what we have suggested. Keep doing it. Keep trying. Change does not occur overnight. You got into the position/place that you are in over time. It will take time to get out.
Therapy does require a good therapist. However, therapy will not work unless you make the commitment to yourself. If you are not ready to do that, than do not start counseling. Know that it will be hard. But if you do the work it will be worth it and this I can promise. As I said in my last blog, therapists are not magicians. Neither are you. Do not expect miracle from either of us. Good things come from hard work. You will see results if you try, work, push and perserve. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have seen it and it is not the train coming to hit you.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
When we think about commitment we often think about relationships. In relationships, commitment involves a number of things including making the person a priority, being honest with the person, knowing we can trust them etc. There are many facets to commitment.
When a person enters into counseling or life coaching, they are starting a new relationship with the therapist/life coach. However, the commitment is not to that person. What are you doing is not for the therapist/life coach, it is for yourself. So the commitment that you are making is TO YOU!! And to no one else.
If you enter into counseling or life coaching know that it will work, if you commit to yourself that you will do it and follow through. This means facing yourself and the things about you that you do not want to face. This means doing the homework. This means trying even when you do not want to. This means do what the therapist suggests even if you think we are out of our minds in regards to what we have suggested. Keep doing it. Keep trying. Change does not occur overnight. You got into the position/place that you are in over time. It will take time to get out.
Therapy does require a good therapist. However, therapy will not work unless you make the commitment to yourself. If you are not ready to do that, than do not start counseling. Know that it will be hard. But if you do the work it will be worth it and this I can promise. As I said in my last blog, therapists are not magicians. Neither are you. Do not expect miracle from either of us. Good things come from hard work. You will see results if you try, work, push and perserve. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have seen it and it is not the train coming to hit you.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Therapists are not magicians
One thing I learn when I am out on the road, is that none of us have all of the answers. I love learning from the people with whom I work and meet. For example, at seminars, I get ideas and strategies from the attendees. Everyone has their own background and imagination which results in the sharing of ideas.
The same ideas apply to my work with people as a therapist and life coach. I am not an expert on the person with whom I am sitting - they are. We have to work together. I have tools and ideas that I can share and teach to that individual but this is based upon what they teach me about themself. That is why we have to work as a team.
This is probably why I do not get all high and mighty. I am human, you are human and together we can be a force for change but only if we work together. I had a client text me yesterday with some issues he is struggling with. It was important to remind him that change and improvement takes time. IF you do your part and I do mine, things will get better but it takes hard WORK and TIME.
I firmly belief that with all of this in mind and a commitment, everyone can change the course of their life. Everyone can make things better for themself. This is an amazing process that I am honored to watch and be a part of. Counseling and coaching work though because two people work together as a team towards agreed upon goals.
It is amazing. I am blessed to serve people as I do.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
The same ideas apply to my work with people as a therapist and life coach. I am not an expert on the person with whom I am sitting - they are. We have to work together. I have tools and ideas that I can share and teach to that individual but this is based upon what they teach me about themself. That is why we have to work as a team.
This is probably why I do not get all high and mighty. I am human, you are human and together we can be a force for change but only if we work together. I had a client text me yesterday with some issues he is struggling with. It was important to remind him that change and improvement takes time. IF you do your part and I do mine, things will get better but it takes hard WORK and TIME.
I firmly belief that with all of this in mind and a commitment, everyone can change the course of their life. Everyone can make things better for themself. This is an amazing process that I am honored to watch and be a part of. Counseling and coaching work though because two people work together as a team towards agreed upon goals.
It is amazing. I am blessed to serve people as I do.
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
Play Therapy Seminar in Minnesota
Got back late Friday night from Minnesota where I delivered my Play Therapy Seminar as a speaker for PESI. What a great three days. I was amazed at how active the audience was throughout. I was in St. Cloud one day, Roseville the next and finished up in Bloomington. It was great the questions that were raised and the issues that we addressed.
What is incredible about Play Therapy is that there are no limits. If you have an imagination than you can always put new twists or add fun twists to any technique. Play Therapy is usually fun but can evoke a lot of feelings. There are times where doing such work with children can be very hard for you and the child. It is also important to keep in mind that Play Therapy works great for children, adults, couples and families. It is an exciting medium.
I want to thank all those in Minnesota who attended my seminar. I will be going to NY in March presenting this seminar in White Plains, Plainview and Manhattan. For more information or to register please go to www.PESI.com and search for NY and the first week of March.
Thank you,
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
What is incredible about Play Therapy is that there are no limits. If you have an imagination than you can always put new twists or add fun twists to any technique. Play Therapy is usually fun but can evoke a lot of feelings. There are times where doing such work with children can be very hard for you and the child. It is also important to keep in mind that Play Therapy works great for children, adults, couples and families. It is an exciting medium.
I want to thank all those in Minnesota who attended my seminar. I will be going to NY in March presenting this seminar in White Plains, Plainview and Manhattan. For more information or to register please go to www.PESI.com and search for NY and the first week of March.
Thank you,
Dr. Christine Frydenborg Dargon
www.christinefrydenborgdargon.com
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